• Have a day • Saving Grace ft. Louis Tomlinson
Last week my therapist asked me ‘what kept you alive before you started therapy?’
I’ve been in therapy for a little over two years now. I struggle with adhd, anxiety, depression and I’ve been suicidal for most of my teenage years. It’s been hard, but I feel like two years of intensive therapy are finally starting to pay off. Some of the little things in life make me smile again. The laughter of a child, a puppy on my morning walk. I’m not saying I’m cured, far from it actually, but it’s getting better. There are still a lot of dark days, but I’m making progress.
That brings me back to the question, what díd keep me alive before I started this journey to getting better?
It’s not only a ‘what’, but also a ‘who’.
You and your music kept me alive for years. It made the darkest days bearable. It was the light at the end of my tunnel. And even though it felt like the light took one step back every time I took a step forward, it was still there. It gave me a reason to fight. ‘Cause maybe there would come a day where the light would take one step back, but I would be able to take two steps forward and catch up to it eventually.
With this letter I just wanted to say thank you.
Thank you for keeping me alive when I struggled to do so myself.
Thank you for pulling me back every time I started to slip away again.
I know we’ve never met, and we probably never will, but your existence saved at least one life and I wanted you to know that.
Please don’t feel the pressure to write back, I’m not expecting an answer.
Honestly I’m not even expecting you to read this. I know I’m definitely not the only one writing you ‘fan mail’
If you actually do read this, thanks again.
Take care and lots of love,
Ps. If you do feel like writing back, please don’t spend any money on stamps or envelops.
A tear slides down my cheek when I put down Manon’s letter. She’s right, she’s definitely not the only one writing me, but for some reason her letter stood out to me in the gigantic pile of mail. Maybe it was her neat handwriting, or maybe the beautifully colored stamp, but somehow it caught my attention. As if it screamed ‘read me’. Usually these kind of letters don’t really get to me, ‘cause I’ve learned the hard way that lots of them are fake. But somehow hers feels different. Genuine. Maybe because she explicitly told me she’s not expecting an answer. It almost feels as if she wrote this letter more for herself than she did for me.
I open up my laptop and email, but I don’t even know where to start. Minutes pass and there’s still not a single word on my screen. I decide to get up and get myself something to drink. As I walk over to the kitchen I start to contemplate what I’m gonna write her. I pour myself a glass of sprite and head back to my desk. Maybe I should just start and not think about it too much.
first of all, I really like your name, even though I’m not completely sure how to pronounce it, haha!
I hope you’re doing okay today.
I’m writing this email, but I don’t really know what to say to you, other than your letter really got to me. I hope my response atleast puts a smile on your face.
I’ll add a picture of my puppy too! He’s the cutest, his name is Oliver!
I finally found the time to care for a dog now that me and the boys no longer tour together. I’ve had him for a little over four months now and I already can’t imagine my life without him! Maybe he can brighten up your day, if I fail to do so.
I hope you email me back, I’d love to keep in contact with you. If you don’t feel like making small talk, that’s fine!
But maybe you can keep me updated on your therapy progress.
I think you’re really brave for taking the step to get help, and I’m sure those dark days will make place for bright, sunny days eventually.
For now I’m not going to tell you to have a good day, but I’m telling you to just have a day! Take them as they come and don’t force yourself to have a good day everyday. Having a bad day is fine too.
Take care, Manon!
Ps. I’m pretty sure I don’t have to tell you this, but please don’t share this email address with other people.